Bride has meltdown after 38 weeks pregnant sister goes into labor during her wedding: 'She says I should have waited until after the wedding to go to the hospital'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Dec 25, 2024 6:00 PM EST

Almost anyone who has ever had a baby will tell you that the last couple of weeks of pregnancy can be a miserable experience. The baby is so big that you can barely walk, sleep, or do anything without needing to pee, and your entire life seems to be like one long waiting game for the big event, which could come at any time. In addition to this, life still goes on around you no matter how pregnant you are—sometimes, you still have those unavoidable commitments.

This is what one expecting mom felt when her doctor cleared her to go to her younger sister's wedding while 38 weeks pregnant. She unexpectedly went into labor during the reception, which meant that she and her husband left after an hour to go to the hospital for the birth. The bride was greatly offended that this had happened, but many people weren't sure that she had a right to be.

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    AITA for "stealing" my sister's wedding spotlight with my emergency C-section?
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    This past weekend, my younger sister got married. It was a huge event- over 200 guests, a fancy venue, the works. My husband and I attended, despite me being 38 weeks pregnant. I was feeling fine, and my doctor had cleared me to go as long as I stayed close to home and didn't overexert myself. During the reception, I started feeling some cramps. I thought they were just Braxton Hicks contractions, so I tried to ignore them and focus on the party. About an hour in, the cramps got worse, and I sta
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    The issue? My sister is furious with me. She claims I "ruined her big day" because several family members left the wedding early to come to the hospital, including our parents, who understandably wanted to make sure I was okay. She says I should have "waited until after the wedding" to go to the hospital, or at least not told anyone what was happening until the next day so the focus could stay on her. I apologized for the timing, but I reminded her that this was a medical emergency, and I didn't
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    My sister hasn't spoken to me since, and now I'm wondering if I really did something wrong. AITA for going to the hospital during my sister's wedding? Edit for clarification: For those who might ask why I attended the wedding so late in my pregnancy: I cleared it with my doctor beforehand and had no prior complications. The hospital was only 20 minutes from the venue. I had no way of knowing this would happen. Let me know what you think-did I mess up? Or is my sister overreacting?
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    Perhaps it wasn't necessary for so many people to leave the wedding when what was happening was apparent. However, this was undoubtedly a set of circumstances that were unexpected and had to be acted on quickly, even if they did happen in the middle of an important event.

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    Turbulent Ebb5669 Your sister is an idiot. End of story.
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    OldCrow2368 Sister is a selfish see you next Tuesday
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    Ornery-Contact3376 OP Thanks! I have to say, I'm inclined to agree. Though it's hard when family and mutual friends I love and respect have sided with her... :(
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    sikonat Then they're AHs too. I'm so sick of this 'stealing thunder' cr p. Of course there's malicious people who do do that, but for pity's sake. You had your baby arrive a couple of weeks early AND it was going to be life or death for both of you (let's not kid ourselves here birth is a dangerous event and if you're a black woman the maternal mortality rate is high). Sister needs to get a grip.people can be happy for her and also have focus on other people. She is not entitled to exclusive att
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    salemmay0317 How are you and the baby? I'm happy your parents shared concern for your health. P.S. - NTA.
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    Ornery-Contact3376 OP Happy and healthy, thank you for asking :)
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    I_wanna_be_anemone So glad grandpa didn't have a heart attack on the dance floor, bridezilla might have blocked the EMT's because she was too busy screaming at the dying guy for taking her spotlight/s. Even if you weren't in labour, you were clearly having a medical emergency while heavily pregnant. Any sane person would want to check you were ok. Did sister insist that you missing the wedding was unacceptable and that you were selfish for daring to be due around her big day when she learned you
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    crazycatlady_77 That would have been terrifying for you and I'm sure you had the added pressure of not wanting to take attention from your sister. I'm so glad your baby arrived safely and no actual harm was done - unlikely to have been the case if you hadn't listened to your body when you did! Your sister could choose that as a reason to have a special bond with your baby instead of sulking about it!!
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    Ornery-Contact3376 OP Thanks, and yes the last thing I wanted was to spoil her day or make it about me but at the end of the day, I couldn't control when I gave birth.
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    evilmonkeydiaz NTA, your sister lacks brains. What were you supposed to do absorb the baby or something? It was going to happen. You have nothing to apologize for
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    eeyorethechaotic NTA but your sister certainly is!! I'd let her know you're not interested in continuing a relationship until she apologises for being such a selfish AH. You were in a potentially life or death scenario. She was having a party. WTAF.
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    Ornery-Contact3376 OP Thanks. I have to say I am fairly gobsmacked by her reaction, and I simply can't imagine having the same response roles reversed.
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    MoonBaking If I was in the sister's position, I would have halted the wedding and yelled, "I'm going to be an Aunty". To have that little special connection with the nephew You're NTA
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    DiviPrmr Is she dumb? Does she know how pregnancy and delivery of baby works? Tell her this "Do you think I could control an EMERGENCY C-SECTION? What do you think how does delivery works? If I could control medical emergency then i would like to see how you manage to control how to deliver your baby when the time comes. Because I would love to know how you control it the way you expect me to. Wedding date is set but an emergency delivery date cannot be set. If you feel I intentionally delivered
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    GenoFlower I do understand her frustration that people left to go to the hospital. I mean, that could have probably waited until after the wedding, right? You (or husband, or one friend) could have texted one person at the wedding with updates, and if it got to the point that others needed to be there, they could have gone. However, that's not entirely on you. You were the one with the medical emergency, and your attentions were elsewhere. Your sister should be mad at the people who left, unless
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    GroundbreakingNeck46 I agree with this. On one hand I'm thinking just sneak out and don't tell anyone on the other hand I'm thinking the parents would have noticed regardless and gotten worried. Only other option was a lie like "I'm really pregnant and tired, gotta go rest" but if anything bad happened they all would have felt terrible. I don't think parents needed to leave the wedding but that was their decision. OP didn't demand they go.
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    FitzDesign The fact that anyone even thinks of siding with your sister shows how stupid they are. Do you really need people like this in your life???? Time to add some people to your blocked list. Congrats on becoming a mom and enjoy this special time with your baby! NTA
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    Marowo14 I have such mixed feelings on this. Obviously NTA. But your parents left the wedding? Why? They can't deliver your baby. Husband should have been giving updates and they should have stayed.. Your sister is valid in being hurt. But not at you.
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